Sensemaking with Wolé and Tobi

S2E3 - Swipe in the Name of Love

The one about love and attraction through algorithms.
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Who needs to wait to be introduced to a crush or wait to run into them at the mall a couple of times in a row while picking up groceries... Nope, not anymore.
Online dating/dating apps have become widespread and revolutionised how we pursue relationships. It has broken down the need for proximity, made the chances of dating (“casual” or serious) more achievable, and given everyone a fair chance.
Or has it? 🤔
This was a conversation about our experiences and thoughts about scanning, swiping and matching.
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Timestamps
[01:35] - The context
[14:46] - The success of dating apps
[26:28] - Girls and the lack of "game"
[35:45] - Over-reliance on online connections
[56:42] - Selection metrics

S2E2 - Women‘s Rights and Women‘s Wrongs

The one about finding our way through feminism....
Last season, we spoke about the problem with men, focusing on some unhealthy traits that we're known to exhibit. While this episode is not a direct opposite, this time, we put the spotlight on women.
This was an open conversation centred around feminism and how aspects of the movement continue to manifest in our everyday lives. 
Clearly, we as men don’t have to contend with the issues women have to deal with on a regular, and that's one of the reasons why we brought on a friend, Seyitan. 
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Timestamps
[00:39] - Defining feminism
[05:37] - Male Privilege
[09:17] - Women and Privilege
[14:50] - Is life easier being a man or being a woman?
[24:00] - Marriage and flawed perceptions
[26:20] - Equality in marriage
[28:35] - Male Feminists
[36:10] - Possible solutions
[45:00] - Wrapping up

S2E1 - Paychecks, Cars, Apartments...

The one about the myth of independence.
Being in your 20s is not exactly a walk in the park. You are not where you want to be, but you are also not quite sure where you want to go. At least for the majority.
It is the feeling of being stuck in between growing and grown, uncertain if you are still a kid or an adult yet. It is the gap between your “dream job” and where you have to show up again tomorrow.
On this episode, Wolé and Tobi talk about what independence means to them, the milestones of independence, and common misconceptions about the whole thing.
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Timestamps
[03:07] - Setting the context
[04:45] - Defining independence
[10:39] - Milestones that mark independence
[23:32] - Love, control and being economically useless
[30:58] - Misconceptions about independence
[37:37] - Final thoughts

We're back for Season 2! (Trailer)

It's been a short while, but Wolé and Tobi are back for the second season of 20s Convos! 
This season will see us have even more exciting conversations about feminism, independence in young adults, division in ideologies, staying healthy and a lot more.
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The Recap: Season 1

On this bonus episode, we sat down with 4 of our friends (Aije, Banjo, Anjola and Tomiwa) who have all been following the podcast this season. They talked about their favourite episodes, biggest takeaways, and topics they'd like to see us have a conversation about on future episodes.
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S1E10 - Shades of Being Black

The one about the Black identity across borders.
What do you think it means to be black? Is it skin colour, ethnic backgrounds, or more?
Are there levels of being black?
Is a person who is born and bred in Africa “more black” than a black European or American or vice versa?
Is it even possible to have black hierarchies?
Bruh.

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S1E9 - The Fear of Not Being Good Enough

This episode is about "The Impostor Syndrome".
Does each raise, promotion or accolade bring joy? Or is it accompanied by the dread that, one day, your cover will be blown, and everyone will find out that you just got lucky?
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S1E8 - Growing Up in the Noughties

This episode is about upbringing in the culture.
We caught up with TanidabiOluwa and reflected on how much about who we are as young adults can be traced back to things that happened to us growing up.
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S1E7 - Me, You and the Echo Chambers

This episode is about improving media literacy as young adults.
As a generation that has essentially been raised by the internet, a lot of our views, desires, and prejudices are planted and reinforced by what we consume on the web.
Media is all around us and we’re living in a saturated media environment. This is why it is important to understand how to digest all of that content.
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S1E6 - Do I Regret it or Would I Relive it?

This episode is about looking at first-time experiences we’ve all been through and reflecting on if we regret them happening or if we would relive them.
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S1E5 - The Church

This episode is about spirituality in postmodern culture.
To quote Ravi Zacharias “If belonging to a church is judged as a product to be consumed, the church must appeal to the consumer to “buy into” the product.”
We spoke about our backgrounds growing up in Christian homes, mega-churches, competition within the church, postmodernism, the Church and its impact on social justice issues, plus a lot more.
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S1E4 - Grad School or Not?

This episode is about the significance or insignificance of a post-grad education. From if you should go, to when you should go, to “how” you should go.
For context, Wole is a doctoral researcher in his 3rd year, and I, on the other hand, have been working in the startup ecosystem since my first degree, so that gave this conversation a balanced perspective. 
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Here's a link to the flow-chart Wolé spoke about on the episode. It's about what to consider when considering a grad degree abroad.

S1E3 - The Problem with Men

This episode is about the hidden costs of masculinity.
Standards of manliness or masculinity vary across different cultures and historical periods. Traits traditionally viewed as masculine in Western society include strength, courage, independence, leadership, and assertiveness.
But where does that leave gentleness, empathy, humility, and sensitivity?
And how does society tend to treat men that explore that spectrum of their personality? 
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S1E2 - Young, Black and Financially Literate

This episode is about being young, black and financially literate.
At the risk of making a hasty generalisation, it’s almost safe to say that as a 20-something-year-old, financial literacy isn’t something that regularly pops up in your conversations, so we decided to talk about it!
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S1E1 - What Might Our 30s Look Like

This episode is about the Global Pandemic in 2020, its effect on our world as 20-something-year-olds and what that might mean for our 30’s.
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